Healthy Aging Month: Enjoying Sex With a Bad Back and Hips

September is Healthy Aging Month - Learn About Sex With a Bad Back and Hips

We here at Fusion Wellness PT consider pain free sex an important factor of aging healthfully! Today we talk about two common orthopedic complaints when engaging in penetrative sex: achy backs and bad hips.

Orthopedic Considerations and Penetrative Sex

As we all know, sex is an important activity for many, and lovemaking is a vital component of quality of life, particularly as we age. In this article we’ll cover some common orthopedic issues associated with penetrative sex that people have with sex as they age, and some suggestions for what you can do about it.

Back Pain

Do you avoid sex with a bad back due to the pain? Does enjoying sex leave your back throbbing the next day?

Are you extension or flexion intolerant?

Go see a professional to find out what kind of back pain you have.

First of all, not all sex positions are one size fits all. Depending on the type of back injury you have and which movements aggravate it, different sex positions will be more appropriate for you. Some people get backaches with spinal flexion (like the position bending over to tie your shoe or bending forward), while others become more aggravated with spinal extension (leaning backward or arching).  Layered on top of this, some people experience more back pain with excessive movement, while others do not. Various sex positions can increase or decrease these types of movements, and thus either aggravating the pain or allowing pain-free movement. 

This is when the help of a doctor, DO, chiropractor, or physical therapist can be very helpful, as they can help evaluate and assess what type of back pain you have and which motions are safe and pain free for you.

Are you giving or receiving penetration? 

When it comes to sex with a bad back, sex positions are not one size fits all! Whether you are giving or receiving penetration, various sex positions demand different things from your body. For those of you who do both giving and receiving penetration, it's good to know which positions will work best with you, depending on the types of activity you engage in.

Positions for Receiving Penetration if You Have Back Pain

Extension-Intolerant, Receiving Penetration
If arching or extending your back increases your back pain, you are extension-intolerant. If you are receiving penetration and extension-intolerant, try the missionary position. Adding a low-back support, such as a thin pillow, can also help keep the spine in a more neutral to slightly flexed position.

Flexion-Intolerant, Receiving Penetration
For those receiving penetration who are flexion-intolerant (bending forward hurts your back), the findings suggest trying either side-by-side spooning where you can control the position of your spine, or doggy-style while supporting your upper body with your hands.

Positions for Giving Penetration if You Have Back Pain

Extension-Intolerant, Giving Penetration
For those giving penetration and extension-intolerant try missionary on elbows or side-by-side spooning.

Flexion-Intolerant, Giving Penetration
For those giving penetration who are flexion-intolerant, try doggy style with the receiver supporting their upper body on their hands. Additionally, the study recommends a hip-hinging motion rather than thrusting when penetrating, to conserve spinal movement.

Some examples of recommended positions for sex with a bad back based on various types of low back pain are highlighted in the figure at the bottom of this article:
https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/treatments/psychological/improving-sex-lives-patients-chronic-pain

For more information on back pain with sex check out this previous blog post.

Hip Pain

Ongoing hip issues such as hip impingement can put a damper on your sex life. Getting more creative with sex can lead to a lot of interesting positions and hip motions which are not always ergonomic and can add to hip pain, instability, and/or injury.

Avoid positions that make hips unstable

Things to avoid if you have a hip impingement or bad hips:

• Greater than 0 degrees of hip extension (think leg going out behind you)
• Greater than 30 degrees of external rotation (think knees pointing “out” or duck feet)
• Greater than 30 degrees of abduction (think “spread eagle”).
• Greater than 90 degrees of flexion (knee to chest)
• Greater than 10 degrees of internal rotation (going “pigeon toed”)
• Greater than 10 degrees of adduction (legs crossing midline).

Sex Positions that are Safe for Bad Hips

Giving Penetration

You will need to master a “hip hinge” movement rather than a thrusting motion.

Rear Entry positions that will keep your legs in a neutral position

•          Spooning Side by Side
•          Rear entry with partner on their elbows/hands
•          Seated with partner straddling you and facing away from you

Receiving Penetration:

Rear Entry positions that will keep your legs in a neutral position

•          Lying on your stomach (with our wihout a pillow under your hips), partner enters you from behind
•          Lying on your belly, slightly tipped to left or right with the aide of pillows
•          Standing with hands supported on a counter/wall, partner behind you

See more about hip impingement and sex at this blog post:

https://feminapt.com/blog/sex-and-your-hip-impingement-position-matters

Resources

Bahouq H, Allali F, Rkain H, Hajjaj-Hassouni N. (2013). Discussing sexual concerns with chronic low back pain patients: barriers and patients' expectations. Clin Rheumatol. 32(10):1487-92

Volpe, K. (2015). Improving the Sex Lives of Patients With Chronic Pain. Practical Pain Management. https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/treatments/psychological/improving-sex-lives-patients-chronic-pain

Sidorkewicz, N., McGill, SM. (2014). Male spine motion during coitus: implications for the low back pain patient. Spine (Phila Pa 1976). 39(20):1633-9

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4381984/

Sidorkewicz N., McGill SM. (2015). Documenting female spine motion during coitus with a commentary on the implications for the low back pain patient. Eur Spine J. 24(3):513-20

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25341806

Griffin DR, Dickenson EJ, O’donnell J, et al. The Warwick Agreement on femoroacetabular impingement syndrome (FAI syndrome): an international consensus statement. Br J Sports Med 2016;50:1169-1176.

Morehouse, H., Sochacki, K. R., Nho, S. J., & Harris, J. D. (2020). Gender-Specific Sexual Activity After Hip Arthroscopy for Femoroacetabular Impingement Syndrome: Position Matters. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. doi:10.1016/j.jsxm.2019.12.026 

Lee S, Frank RM, Harris J, et al. Evaluation of Sexual Function Before and After Hip Arthroscopic Surgery for Symptomatic Femoroacetabular Impingement. Am J Sports Med 2015; 43:1850-1856.

**some edits made by Heather Jeffcoat, DPT